It is so easy to caught up and held up in the whole what is right and what is wrong. I find myself there much too often. After all we do have laws! So how is it that someone can break the law and get away with it without someone crying for justice? Especially if you yourself had rightfully (morally) and maybe even legally wronged?
I have personally fell in this trap with my boys father owing child support. He owes over $100K in child support. There has been no enforcement despite the laws that allow them to do so. His family enables his crimes against us with full knowledge that the oldest is totally disabled and will never be self sustaining. It is legally and morally WRONG. We never asked for this. A dear family member of mine, blind sided by divorce. He comes home and is told in a nut shell “I have been wanting to leave for over a year, sign this and I won’t keep MY kids from you. You are to move out and leave everything…” He never saw it coming. It is straight up morally WRONG. He never asked for this. My mother living on SS had her car breakdown. Not wanting to tow it out of town takes it to the mechanic nearest by. He quotes her, promises to fix it. She being on a fixed income trickles payments to him. 9 months later, $900 lost, he is gone (evicted out of his shop), car is in pieces, not even any new parts purchased. He is not worth suing. She is out a car and $900 that is nearly impossible to replace. It is legally and morally WRONG. She never asked for this.
It is IMPOSSIBLE to live in this world and not have the opportunity to be offended. It is not a matter of if it will happen but when and how often. Our response determines our future. So how do we respond? If you anything like me where thinking for the most part is very black and white, where wrong is wrong and right is right, then you will become ensnared as a “justice seeker”. Or others have seen have fallen trap to pride. Ever heard the wounded say “…I’m okay” or “…I will be fine”. They deny that just how deeply they have been wounded and ultimately never deal with it, that pain roots into bitterness, anger/rage even, and resentment. All of which can lead to an even worse condition of hardheartedness, insensitivity, ultimately hindering you from hearing God’s voice. This condition will set you up to be lead into total deception. Just because you were mistreated does not put you in the right to hold onto the offense. Two wrongs never equal a right. An offense not dealt with properly simply leads us away from the heart of God, and ultimately we produce the fruits of sin.
So if we acknowledge this, then it feels as if we are unable to do anything in response to the offense. I have many times turned to God and asked, “Don’t you have my back?” “Do you not see?” “How can they just get away with this?” God almost seems to turn a blind eye. We feel ignored or abandoned (here is the start of the deception!). Straight up: Present, immediate justice is not God’s agenda. As my pastor told me regarding this subject:
How can you love your enemies if you want them to fry.
YIKES. Okay I get it, this is not new….the whole we must love our enemies command gets me more often then I would like to admit (could that be a dose of pride?).
24 The Lord’s slave must not quarrel, but must be gentle to everyone, able to teach,and patient, 25 instructing his opponents with gentleness. Perhaps God will grant them repentance leading them to the knowledge of the truth. 26 Then they may come to their senses and escape the Devil’s trap, having been captured by him to do his will. 2Tim 2:24-26 HCSB
“…gentle to EVERYONE….” It does not say to those whom are nice to us. His will is ultimately to bring them into repentance and knowledge of Him and His Word to EVERYONE. That won’t happen if their feet are held over coals.
Remember the Lord uses ALL things to work towards the good for those that love Him (Rm 8:28). Many times the worst of the worst offenses refine us. Let me explain: The refining process (when speaking of gold) causes the impurities to come to the top or surface if you will. They can then be removed (dealt with). An issue with forgiveness, anger, faith, or any other sin can not be dealt with if not brought to the surface. You will come out on top if you handle it God’s way. It is no mistake that the root of the word offense is the Greek skan-dal-id’-zo: to entice to sin to put a stumbling block or impediment in the way, upon which another may trip and fall, become ensnared or tangled, metaph. to offend. In other words for one to offend you, you are being caused to sin. Do not fall into this trap!
No where does God promise immediate judgement for wrongs. He does not play games of tit-for-tat. However, God does promise ultimate justice upon His return.
5 It is a clear evidence of God’s righteous judgment that you will be counted worthy of God’s kingdom, for which you also are suffering, 6 since it is righteous for God to repay with affliction those who afflict you 7 and to reward with rest you who are afflicted, along with us. This will take place at the revelation of the Lord Jesus from heaven with His powerful angels, 8 taking vengeance with flaming fire on those who don’t know God and on those who don’t obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus. 2Thes 1:5-8 HCSB
He will have vengeance on those who do not obey, and those who refuse to know Him. But He honestly wishes for ALL to be save, for ALL to come to know him. To be in alignment with the Lord means we must demonstrate HIS love. We can not do that and be “justice seekers”.