Almost daily we encounter small moments where we can teach our beloveds just a bit of truth. Sometimes we don’t even realize it has happened. The other week one of our kiddos fell victim to what we thought were one of my many parental controls. Now before you go thinking I run a monastery at home its quite the contrary. It’s not about control, it’s about me being alert to what they are watching, reading, and playing. I feel it is my God given responsibility to be “all up in their business”. It’s up to them as to how painful it will be 🙂 There is always freedom of choice in my household. Which also means the freedom to screw up. But we use these mishaps as teachable moments.
Back to the recent encounter with my controls. One of the boys had gotten a new PS3 game for his birthday, Call of Duty Black Ops II. This is a rated M game that is condoned in our house. For those that may not be familiar this game includes the ability to play online with other gamers both locally and internationally. Online play is different then just playing on the system. You can control the settings on a system, you can not control another person (behavior or language). Online play has been a touchy subject, and recently I lifted the block as they are getting older and have shown good judgement. They were first taught how to use the system, which included how to block other users.
Well, one of the boys tried to play online and he was blocked. He was sure Mom messed up on the control settings. I assured him that I had it set up correctly. I did some checking and this is what I found on the PSN board regarding this issue. No matter your parental control settings or content settings, if your teen is under a certain age (COD Black Ops II is 15+, or Rainbow Six Vegas 16+) the server for the game host (not PSN) will block them. You will not be able to change this setting. They have done this to prevent legal suits. The ONLY way around this is to create another profile with a new email and to LIE about your age.
Really! The recommendation is to LIE to get around this control. May I encourage you as parents DO NOT ALLOW THIS, even if you have allowed your teen (of which we have) to do play some of these games! It encourages lying and justification to circumvent rules that are set. It’s not a big deal to wait or play as a guest on an older sibs profile.
Which is more important? Integrity or to play online? What happens when this scenario comes up at school or work? Teach them now and they will at least have the tools to make wise decisions in future situations.
Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out